Spiritual Uncoupling
Uncoupling is separation or a divorce from a romantic partner. Spiritual uncoupling refers to amicable breakup
Have you ever saw how a restorer restores a violin? It is a slow, mindful process; he is cautious because one wrong step, the sound will change and destroy the instrument. The restorer connects the work of his hands with the beat of his heart. Ultimately, that is how spiritual uncoupling goes. When a relationship falls apart you have a choice on how to proceed. You can destroy your relationship or you can mended, change it, learn from it. It is the process of coming apart in the most heartfelt way possible, joining the mind, heart, and soul.
If you go back and remember a few breakups in your lifetime, you may be able to notice a negative pattern that follows from one relationship to the next. Those patterns are our unlearned lessons. So for the lessons to be learned in the structure of the breakup, there is a practice of spiritual uncoupling. This type of separation calls for the awakening of our higher self. It is about evolving. This practice gives strength and energy for yourselves, your partner, kids (if there are any involved). Spiritual uncoupling is about freedom of the soul, generosity, gratitude, and love. You will balance your energy and channel it in a way that beneficial for all involved.
I believe that no matter where you are in your process of separation you can use this practice to mend, change and even grow your relationships.
When you start a romantic relationship, the heart is your guide, you feel love. When separation takes place, it often guided by stress, struggle, unhappiness. Love seems to vanish. In Russia, we have a saying: "От любви до ненависти один шаг," literal translation: "love is one step away from hatred ." That is what breakups bring up, unhealthy emotions. If you choose uncoupling instead of the old fashion break up, you will connect back to your heart and your following steps will be sustainable for your relationship wherever the result may be.
I believe that there is a right time for everything but if you are not the one ending the relationship, you can’t always control when your partner decides to leave.
My client, Marina, came to me because her husband of ten years surprised her one warm summer evening. He called her from his new home and introduced her to his new family. Marina reached out to me about six months after this happened, her main reason was to heal her fixation . She had a rollercoaster of emotions, struggling with anxiety and overthinking. He chose the most convenient time for him to split from Marina, but what about her? This type of stories are examples of traumatic experiences that spiritual uncoupling can help to heal or avoid all together.
Remember, it is easier to take apart than put together.
Working on a relationship means to bare your feelings, to speak your truth, have clear communication. Spiritual uncoupling is about realisation of changes within us and making steps to flourish in your new life.
Some of the work that takes place in the process:
Identify root causes
Learn how to identify and shift negative emotions into positive ones.
Unlearn and shed old beliefs
Clear the ancestral path; you are never alone
Identify new safe space
Heal wounds and pointing out triggers
Aura cleanse and protection; grounding
Nutrition and movement practice; self-care routine
Communication with your partner during the uncoupling and after
Ability to sustain yourself in all aspects of the uncoupling and beyond
How to communicate with children during the process
Keep children safe and protected
Learn the process of forgiveness and letting go
Every situation is different thus the structure of the healing process may vary. I can guarantee you will love the result if you choose spiritual uncoupling.
With love,
Katia